The person in question bravely ended the relationship with another beautiful soul months ago to enable him to move on.
How many people out there remain in relationships which are in essence dead simply because they cannot summon up the courage or motivation to end them. Of course in a nanosecond I will get the response [staying together] “it’s for the children”. Well, how much is it for the children to be part of unit which is living a lie? However for some this is too big an issue to deal with.
The two people above both have children.
So, are we on this planet to live lives of quiet desperation? Who benefits from this sad, lonely, and mostly futile situation?
My first marriage was an absolute disaster. Yet what a learning curve it took me on. Like I suppose most men, it wasn’t me who ended it, but I’m eternally grateful to Linda for doing so. Thank you. Yes, when ego, pride, male posturing and who gets the CDs all subside, everything opens up. “Just around the corner” waiting to be “downloaded from the etheric” was my future partner of 36 years.
And maybe now I’m the luckiest person alive. My new relationship with Vanessa is beyond anything I could have predicted. In the etheric, or spirit world, it was all mapped out. So, there will be no triumphalism in this article at the expense of those who have omitted this from their “soul contract”.
Is your soulmate just around the corner…
So, you pursue the life of a single person with gusto. You join endless clubs, sign up to learn dancing, feel empowered from your independence, get a cat [or dog] and maybe you go on endless rounds of dating. You have some good times, you meet like-minded people who become your friends, and meet interesting people of the opposite sex. If that’s your bag. But despite the occasional highs, it doesn’t quite work out. Maybe a [another?] compromise is to get involved with someone who doesn’t quite cut it. But it’s better than being alone. Hmmm. Or you wait for Mr/Ms Right who never turns up...
It is indeed a minefield.
I read in spiritual texts the importance of loving yourself. It is obvious if you do not love yourself then what you are offering to a prospective partner is flawed. You expect them to love someone, yourself, you don’t love either. And yet if we wait until we are perfect, the day we are complete within ourselves, we could be waiting for ever.
In my ‘map of the world’ we are here to evolve the soul. To serve all sentient beings. To help make the world a better place, then to return home.* We evolve the soul, serve others, and make the world a better place through an appreciation and the creation of beauty. Beauty is appreciated through kindness, through love, through acceptance, and through connecting the divine within everyone to the divine within us. Namaste.
I cannot speak for you but this journey on the earth plane for me has no value or purpose unless it is shared with the most significant other.
Before concluding this enlightening interlude let me say this. Most of the communication between us is unspoken. Yes we can wound each other and destroy our relationships with ill-considered or deliberate verbal aggression. Yet never, ever underestimate what your partner and/or your children are picking up moment by moment, hour by hour, day by day from an arrangement that suits no one. Pay attention to that...
Wither your soulmate? Years ago I was involved in running courses to help people find their soul mates. They had mixed success. No more courses, but massive learning.
- Is your relationship going nowhere? Is it better than nothing? Who benefits?
- Would you like to meet your soulmate? Really? Do you deserve a soul mate? What are you prepared to do?
- Do you love yourself? Enough for someone else to find you are a hidden treasure? Do you have to love yourself completely before “setting out your stall?”
- How do you feel about one night stands?
- Do you know how to love another? Perhaps the word compromise might be better expressed as com [mon] promise.
- Is being right more important than loving someone?
- What have you learned from your life so far?
And lastly, I will close with this. My late wife was the most important person in the world to me. However, and Anne would also admit to this, we both placed our mission, our work above each other far more often than I feel comfortable admitting. That is one thing I will never do with Vanessa. She is not only most important person in the world to me, I show it, mean it and live it. And it is reciprocated.
Try it. Your life will never be the same. It will be transformed.
Copyright Jack Stewart July 2016.
* I do all this with my soulmate. And is it conceivable that you may even connect to the divine through yours?
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